Know Your Deen

Islamic QA for North America

May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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‘lets keep this simple Bro’ –really?!

Q: Ok lets keep this simple Bro. If I got haram moneys i mean really haram money and I did Qurbani like Udhiya, does some of my sins get washed away?

A: Offering Qurbani (Udhiyah) with haram income is not accepted — it brings no reward, only financial loss. Intentionally doing so is a sin, not an act of devotion. Rasool ﷺ said: Indeed, Allah is pure and accepts only that which is pure (Hadith)

If your earnings are unlawful, then even a noble act like Qurbani becomes void of reward.

Purify your income. Earn halal, and then offer your Qurbani — and not only will it be accepted, but Allah ﷻ will reward you abundantly and forgive your sins.

Their meat will not reach Allah, nor will their blood, but what reaches Him is your taqwa (God-consciousness).(Surah Al-Hajj 22:37)

So give from what is pure, with a pure heart — and Allah will multiply it beyond measure.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

P.s. Asking such a question has either one of two elements to it: you are religiously messed up, or you getting consciousness to this religion. I am hoping it is is the latter, Insha’Allah. Join us for Eid prayers, if you are local at Dos Vientos. Eid Mubarak!

May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Feedtheummah.com Qurbani needs

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May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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did not do Qurbani for my entire

Q: Q: I did not do Qurbani for my entire life and I always had the money. I realeize i was wrong and want to make good on my past. What do I do? Jak

A: For every Qurbani you missed in the past, it is necessary (wājib) to make it up. Since Qurbani is a wājib act for those who meet the conditions, any missed obligation must be fulfilled. However, unlike the regular Qurbani where one may consume a portion of the meat, the compensatory Qurbani (for missed years) must have all of its meat given entirely in charity (ṣadaqah) to the poor. You are not permitted to eat from it.  

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

May 7, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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woman has been abused

Question: Is divorce allowed if the woman has been abused multiple times over four years?(4 times in 4 years) These attacks have left marks and were not warranted. There was zero effort made on behalf of the abuser for counseling or anger management. I have left him numerous times with false promises of counseling. The last fight left me with a black eye. I did not physically attack him at all. I do not want to bear patience. I do not want to talk to any scholar about how it’s my fault. I do not want to live in fear anymore. I feel like 4 years with no prospect of hope is long enough. I do not want mediation. I do not want to talk to scholar with him. All I want is a divorce so that I can have my peace back.

Answer: No one is required to remain in an abusive marriage. Islam does not ask anyone to live in fear, endure (repeated) harm, or accept false promises without sincere change. Rasool ﷺ said: There should be neither harm nor reciprocating harm.

You have demonstrated patience. Your safety, dignity, and peace of mind are also important, and Islam honors those rights. If your husband has repeatedly abused you, caused you physical harm and made no genuine effort to seek help or change, you have the right to leave.

Islam grants women the right to seek divorce (khulaʿ) when a marriage causes harm or becomes unbearable. That said, how you separate should also reflect your faith, and this includes ensuring that the process is sound according to Islamic guidelines. This may require consulting a trusted, qualified scholar, not for judgment, but for guidance on matters such as the proper type of divorce, the waiting period (ʿiddah), and your rights. (There are councils (eg: Shura council) in California that can assist in this regard.

May Allah (SWT) make matters easy for you, Insha’Allah.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

Disclaimer: This response is based solely on the information you have shared. Every situation has multiple perspectives, and it’s important to acknowledge that. That being said, your case appears serious and deserves proper attention. Given the nature of this marital issue, speaking with a qualified therapist may also be beneficial.

May 5, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Qurbani – Udhiya

Asalamualikum,

Qurbani requests are coming in and we kindly invite you to visit FeedTheUmmah.com. As a valued supporter, your contribution and participation are crucial in fulfilling this important obligation — Wajib/Sunnah.

By visiting FeedTheUmmah.com, you will find all the necessary information and resources to participate in this noble cause. Your involvement will bring relief and blessings to those less fortunate.

Jazakallah for your continued support and may Allah (SWT) reward you abundantly, Ameen.

May 5, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Cannot be married and not married at the same time!

Q: Asalamu Alaykum, I have a daughter that had ketib Iktab, so she is islamicly married. Her wedding is xxxx (date withheld for privacy) InshaAllah. My question is, how intimate can they be. She tells me her research said they can be as intimate as they want, but from what I understand is that they have to wait until after their wedding to have intercourse. I understand culture plays a role is some of our decisions and understanding , but I want to abide by what Allah asks of us. Please help me understand, what is the right thing to do? Jazakum Allah khairan

A: Walaikumsalam WRB:

Congratulations to each of you. May Allah (SWT) give barakah to the couple and their respective families, ameen.

When a couple is married in accordance with both Islamic principles and the laws of the land, there are no religious restrictions on the levels of intimacy they may share. If cultural customs suggest otherwise—especially when they introduce unnecessary delays or suppress the emotional and physical rights of either spouse—then Islamic guidance must take precedence over cultural expectations.

Islam upholds both modesty and mutual fulfillment within the marriage. Islam does not endorse deprivation or unjust restraint. While parents and elders may offer advice or express concern out of love or tradition, their role is advisory, not authoritative or that which contradicts Allah (SWT’s) commands. Once a marriage is valid, the couple deserves the freedom to grow together in love, trust, and emotional closeness—free from guilt, fear, or interference within the parameters of this Sacred religion.

Marriage in Islam is not merely a contract; it is a sanctuary. Within this sacred space, love, intimacy, and connection are not only permissible—they are divinely blessed.

May Allah (SWT) bless your daughter and son-in-law with deep affection, barakah, and a lifetime of peace and companionship. I understand the challenge of navigating the delicate balance between culture and religion. Alhamdulillah, they are now husband and wife. May Allah grant them success in both this world and the next. Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

April 18, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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loan for collateral

Q: in islam if someone wants a loan from me can i request a collateral. How dose this work? (In person inquiry/after jummah salah/iccv)

A: In Islam it is permissible to ask for collateral (rahn رَهْن) when giving a loan, particularly to ensure that the lender is protected from loss—as long as it is done fairly and without exploiting the borrower.

What is Collateral in Islam?

Collateral (Arabic: rahn) is an item or property pledged by the borrower to the lender as a security against the debt. If the borrower fails to repay the loan, the collateral can be sold to recover the owed amount. It is also best that this is documented: If you are on a journey and cannot find a scribe, then let there be a pledge taken…” (2:283)  This ayah allows the use of a pledge (rahn) in the context of a debt, especially when formal documentation is not easily available. Rasool ﷺ himself took and gave collateral in his lifetime. Aisha (RA) said: Rasool ﷺ bought foodstuff from a Jew on credit and mortgaged his ﷺ iron armor to him. Rasool ﷺ gave his armor as collateral for a loan. Doing so in a society that needed to defend itself, giving ones most valued treasure was an armor, thus, showing good faith on the side of the one requesting it as well.

(Some) Conditions for Seeking Collateral:

  1. No Interest (Riba):
  2. Mutual Consent: The collateral must be agreed upon by both parties.
  3. No Exploitation: You can hold the item, but you cannot use it or profit from it unless the borrower gives explicit permission (and even then, scholars have detailed conditions. This is because one cannot exploit a situation and take unfair benefit of a situation. This could result in Riba).
  4. Transparent Terms: The loan terms and the details of the collateral should be clear and documented.
  5. Return of Collateral: Once the debt is repaid, collateral must be returned promptly in its ‘original’ condition.

If someone borrows $5,000 from you, you can say: I can give you the loan, but I would like to hold your car title as collateral until the debt is repaid. Once they repay, you return the title. If they don’t, and after appropriate communication and patience, you may sell the car to recover your $5,000—but nothing more. The excess money must be given back to the owner of the car.

Spirit of the Shariah: While collateral is allowed, Islam highly encourages leniency, mercy, and trust, especially toward those genuinely in need. Rasool ﷺ said: Whoever grants a respite to a debtor or waives the debt, Allah will shade him on the Day when there is no shade but His.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.

April 7, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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lets hang out at the coffee bar–not!

Q: How does one respond: i told a guy that going to a particular coffee shop is resulting in a type of fitna, provocative dressing by Muslims, interactions that are not quite right for a Muslim, he says when you see something, it must not unfavorably affect you. Your faith must become stronger and you must do mujahada. In other words continue going and be strong. What are your thoughts on this matter? I only said what I said to improve my imaan it was not to judge the coffee place or those that attend it. Jazakallah

A: Every person must get to better understand themselves. This is the essence of muraqabah (vigilance) and self-awareness. When someone identifies a particular situation as spiritually harmful—like a place that stirs fitna in the heart and seeks to distance themselves from it, that decision should be respected and even encouraged. Recognizing one’s own weakness is not a flaw; it is a sign of sincerity. It reflects a heart that wants to please Allah (SWT) and safeguard it from potential spiritual maladies.

If someone offers the advice: ‘You should become stronger in faith’ in such a situation, that advice can be valuable if it is meant as motivation for long-term growth. We must also remember: strength of faith is a journey, not a switch. One does not become spiritually resilient overnight. There are steps—gradual and intentional steps that must be taken before a person can withstand trials without continuously faltering.

Your decision to avoid or limit yourself from that environment is not weakness; it is wisdom. In fact, it aligns more directly with the teachings of the Quran, which doesn’t merely instruct us to resist sin—but commands us to avoid the paths that lead to it. While Islam encourages mujahada—striving and strengthening our imaan in the face of trials, however, a key part of that striving includes recognizing harmful environments and protecting oneself from them. Or at the very least, being aware enough to stay spiritually alert while navigating them.

Rasool (SAW) said: Whoever among you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand. If (s)he cannot, then with his tongue. And if (s)he cannot, then with his heart—and that is the weakest level of faith. (Sahih Muslim) This hadith shows that even feeling disturbed by something and desiring good for others is part of our deen. Speaking up when something feels spiritually off is not judgment—it’s concern and should be taken as part of brotherhood, for part of brotherhood is guiding with compassion.

Different people respond to fitna differently. Not every test calls for direct confrontation. Sometimes, the strongest thing a believer can do is simply walk away. If something—whether a place, a habit, or an environment—is consistently tempting the gaze, disturbing the thoughts, or dulling the heart, then insisting on “just being stronger” while staying in that setting is like walking through fire expecting not to be burned.

Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (رضي الله عنه) said: The believer sees his sins as if he is sitting beneath a mountain, afraid it will collapse upon him. The sinner sees his sins like a fly landing on his nose—he just brushes it away. (Adab al-Mufrad) Even the strongest of the Sahabah were cautious. They did not chase inner strength by exposing themselves to spiritual danger. Instead, they protected their hearts out of love and awe for Allah (SWT). This mindset is embedded in the Quran itself. Allah did not merely say: “Do not commit zina”—Allah (SWT) said: “Do not even approach zina.” (Surah Isra, 17:32)

The command is not just to avoid the sin, but to stay far from anything that leads to it—its paths, triggers, and environments. W are not angels. We are created emotionally fragile and physically weak in compartisn to the many other creation of the Almighty. We are also strongly influenced by what we see. We err, thus acknowledging such weakness and performing accordingly is called taqwa.

So whether you avoid certain places entirely, or choose to enter them with caution, it is not cowardice—it is intelligence. It is respect for your own spiritual fragility. This is also a noble form of mujahada. May (SWT) continue to guide you and bless you, InshaAllah, ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

March 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Eid Pre-Khutba speech 1446/2025:

Asalamualikum: Brothers and sisters, never did we imagine that we would gather for multiple Eids with the same question: Can we truly celebrate when the Ummah is suffering? Forget just Palestine—what about Sudan, Yemen, the Uyghur Muslims in China and countless others facing oppression, genocide and unimaginable hardships?

Yet history reminds us that Muslims have always faced trials, even in the most sacred months. The Battle of Badr took place in Ramadan. The Battle of Uhud saw great losses, yet Muslim life continued, and Eid was still observed. During the painful slander against Aisha (RA), the Muslims still celebrated Eid. Why? Because Eid is not just a holiday of festivity—it is a day of worship, a recognition of the blessings of Ramadan, and a commitment to continue the good we have cultivated. This is why we began with giving charity to assist the less fortunate, followed by Salah with extra takbeers, and a sermon to remind us of our responsibilities beyond Ramadan.

Being connected to Allah (SWT) is the ultimate form of success and achieving this is not an overnight miracle; it is a journey, a test, a path filled with hardships and struggles. Allah (SWT) reminds us in the Qur’an: Do people think that they will be left to say, ‘We believe,’ and they will not be tested? (Surah Al-Ankabut 29:2). Every one of us, at some point, faces trials—whether financial difficulties, personal struggles or obstacles in our careers. As we speak, seven families in our community have lost their primary source of income. These are not easy challenges; they bring stress and uncertainty. Many are struggling with relationships, health, and emotional burdens. But these trials are not meant to break us or distance us from Allah (SWT); rather, they are meant to make us spiritually stronger. Rasool(ﷺ) said: The most severely tested people are the Prophets, then those closest to them in faith, then those closest to them. A person is tested according to the level of his religion. (Tirmidhi). Some may think, “I have simple faith; why should I be tested?” Those who have even an atom’s weight of faith are destined for Jannah, and Shaytan despises this. The tests of life are inevitable and are also a means of purification and elevation.

The Strength of Patience (Sabr): One of the greatest qualities that leads to success is perseverance—Sabr. The Qur’an says: Indeed, Allah is with the patient. (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:153). Patience is not passive; it is an active force that drives us forward despite difficulties. Many struggle in school, careers, family matters, or personal ambitions, but if we remain steadfast, trusting in Allah’s wisdom while striving to fulfill our obligations, we will find success and tranquility. As Allah states: Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest. (Surah Ar-Ra’d 13:28). Look at the story of Prophet Yusuf (AS). He was betrayed by his own brothers, sold into slavery, and wrongfully imprisoned, yet he never lost faith. He remained steadfast, and through patience and trust in Allah, he was elevated to a position of power. His story teaches us that no matter how dark the tunnel may seem, there is always light at the end if we remain patient and persistent.

The Power of Intention (Niyyah): Another key to success is having the right intention—niyyah. Rasool (ﷺ) said:Actions are judged by intentions, and every person will get the reward according to what he intended. (Bukhari & Muslim). If we pursue wealth, knowledge, or status solely to impress others, our efforts will be hollow. But if we seek success to better our lives, help our families, and contribute to society with sincerity, then Allah (SWT) will bless our journey.

The Necessity of Hard Work: The Qur’an reminds us: And that man will not attain except that for which he strives. (Surah An-Najm 53:39). Effort and struggle are part of the process. Many people desire success, but few are willing to put in the work. Rasool (ﷺ), despite being divinely guided, worked tirelessly. He assisted in household chores, mended his own shoes, and took initiative in every aspect of life. He did not wait for things to happen; he took action, strategized, and remained steadfast. Allah commands us: Be firm and be persistent in what you have been commanded. Consider the early Muslims. They faced persecution, boycotts, and hardships, yet they persevered. Their resilience led to the spread of Islam across the world, built on faith, sacrifice, and determination.

Trust in the Plan of Allah (Tawakkul) While we must strive, we must also believe that Allah’s decree is best for us. Rasool (ﷺ) said: If you were to rely upon Allah with the reliance He is due, you would be given provision as the birds are: they go out in the morning hungry and return full. (Tirmidhi). This Hadith teaches us that success is a combination of effort and trust—hard work along with reliance on Allah’s provision. Allah (SWT) states: Whoever fears Allah, Allah will provide for them from places they least expect. (Surah At-Talaq 65:3).

Gratitude as a Key to Success: Gratitude is a key ingredient in the recipe for success. Allah (SWT) says: If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]. (Surah Ibrahim 14:7). Being thankful for what we have, no matter how little, attracts more blessings. Instead of focusing on what we lack, we should appreciate what we have and use it wisely to help those less fortunate. Learning from Failures Failure is not the opposite of success; it is a part of success. Rasool(ﷺ) faced rejection, hardship, and battles. But he never gave up. Every setback was a lesson, every struggle a stepping stone. Similarly, our failures should teach us, refine us, and prepare us for greater achievements.

Success beyond This World: Ultimately, true success is not just in this life but in the Hereafter. We are all going to die, but never forever. That day will come when it is said: “The burial of so-and-so will be at 11 AM.” Yet if we did good deeds, we’d realize, as the Qur’an says: And the Hereafter is better and more lasting. (Surah Al-A’la 87:17). Worldly success is temporary, spiritual success is eternal. If we align our goals with the pleasure of Allah, our success will not be limited to this world—it will carry into the next.

A Call to Responsibility: As Muslims, we must stand for justice. We must not support institutions that engage in genocide, oppression, or the deprivation of human dignity. Whether it be through financial, political, or social support, we must be conscious of where our efforts and resources go. If we find ourselves working in such institutions, we must strive to be agents of change—not through aggression, but through compassion, wisdom, and kindness. Rasool (ﷺ) taught that true change comes from sincerity and perseverance, not from hatred or recklessness. Our strength lies in standing firm on our values while being beacons of hope and guidance. If we adopt these principles, we will not only succeed in this world but in the Hereafter as well.

As Muslims (or even as humans), we must stand unwaveringly for justice. We cannot support institutions that engage or promote or are even silent in the issues related to genocide, oppression, or the violation of human dignity—whether the victims are Muslim or non-Muslim. Likewise, we must never support an oppressor, regardless of their faith. A wrong is a wrong, and it must be recognized as such and treated as such. Justice is not merely an Islamic principle; it is a universal moral duty. Throughout history, Muslims have led the way in upholding justice, and we must continue to take the lead. In response to the injustices of today, global awareness is shifting, and support for the oppressed is growing. We must sustain this positive momentum and ensure that our voices remain strong and principled.

From the brands we wear to the food we consume, every choice we make carries weight. Whether through financial, political, or social support, we must be mindful of where our resources go and the impact they have. If we find ourselves within unjust institutions, our duty is not to conform but to strive for change—not through aggression, but through wisdom, integrity, and compassion.

Rasool (ﷺ) taught that true transformation comes through sincerity and perseverance, not hatred or recklessness. Our strength lies in standing firm on our values while serving as beacons of hope and guidance for a better world. Success is not about luck—it is about mindset, perseverance, sincerity, effort, trust in Allah, and gratitude. If we adopt these principles, we will not only succeed in this world but in the Hereafter as well.

May Allah (SWT) bless us with steadfastness, strengthen our faith, and grant relief to the oppressed. Ameen.

Eid Mubarak!

March 29, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Complete Fast or have Eid

Q: Asalamualikum, my local masjid has declared eid, they told us to leave the masjid. A masjid 3 miles away is doing it on Monday. Cresentwatch.com also declared Eid on Monday based on Moonsighting. What do we do? Jazakallah 310 998-xxxx

A: You would need to go to the musjid that is doing it on Monday and complete your itikaaf. As you leave you current masjid, since you are still in Itikaaf, you have to observe the rules of itikaaf.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.