Salamo alekom to you all dear muslims. I was happily married for three long years. I had a son from my wife. We had struggled through our relationship a bit but we loved each other, and then shaydan came between us, cos neither of us prayed. She had an operation when she was giving birth, and for the reason we hardly seen each other in bed, cos she was always in constant pain. I started playing up and seeing other women and doing horrible horrible things to her. i beated her, broke everything in the house, she even gave me all her gold so i could have some pocket money, cos i was not working. she knew all about the women i was with. I spend days and nights not going to my house cos i was enjoying myself. one night I came home and some how caught her on the phone with someone, she spent one hour and half  talking to that person. I asked her who it was and she denied it, i tried to phone the number but the person didnt talk to me so i assumed it was a man. I asked her to speak to the person but she refused, i then told her that i will let everybody know about what she is doing. She tried to take the phone off me and delete the number but i refused and ran out of the house, i came back 3 days later, and tried to collect my clothes and leave for good, she then rang her father and told him whats going on, but she never told him the full turth, she said to him that the number belonged to her female cousin and i simply got jealous. I divorced her on the spot. I came back the next day to make sure my suspicion was correct and i saw a man with her in the living room. Iam so stressed cos i love her to bit and cant see myself with other woman ever again. I even insulted her father out of anger. I am blaming myself cos what I did to her came round at me, but then at the same time I am thinking she shouldnt have done what she did to me at the end. what do i do, I am into pieces. salamo alekom.

Time: October 17, 2013 at 5:22 PM

A: Walaikumsalam,

• You are divorced. That is reality you have to live with.
• Fulfill the rights that apply to your divorce.
• Ask her for sincere forgiveness.
• Both of you must now move on.

InshaAllah, Allah (SWT) would make things better for both of you. Both of you should make lots of istigfaar and seek better companionship. You must try and go often to the musjid as often as possible, try to perform salah with Jamaat, listen to good quality islamic lectures, set a time to read Quran and reflect upon the greatness of Allah (SWT). Try to be in the path of Allah at-least a few times a month, this may assist in removing your restlessness, inshaAllah, Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.