Q: Aaslam-O-Alekum
If any ones father does not have any interest in his childrens nikah, What they can do, our mother died in our childhood, our older sister had become 35 but our father have no any intrest in his nikah we all of them to point out this but they ignore, after more our brother become 32 and he side his father about one girl she is pure muslim with 5 time salah and Quran, but father ignore and laughing on brother and abusing about girl and tourcher to brother, they asked many time if any problem they can say but they can just ignore, in this condition what we can do, if brother is involving in zina how is responssiable, if he nikah without father with other family member like uncle or antiy is it corect or fals, Please answer as soon as possiable. Jazak Allah Khair

Time: November 15, 2013 at 7:36 AM

A: Walaikumsalam,

Marriage issues can make the man of the household selfish. The expense that society imposes upon the cost of the wedding makes many fathers shy away from the topic of marriage, especially when it comes to their daughters. Many parents  appear to have insecurities and want to derive benefit from the nikah of their children. This is wrong. Nikah brings its own set of blessing and fortune. Parents must embrace nikah for their children, this would assist in eliminating zina and corruption on earth. (As derived from hadith)

If you have found a good proposal and you see that your father is being unreasonable, go with your brother and uncles to a good local qualified mufti and request he perform your nikah. Based on your scenario, inshaAllah your nikah would be performed.

Once the nikah has been performed, prove to your father that things are good, continue to be polite to him and assist him in whatever way you can.

May Allah (SWT) make your matters one of blessing, ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.