Q: Asalamualikum, as imam of the musjid, what are the boundaries between men and woman in the House of Allah. Can men and woman intermingle during an event with provocative clothing?  It takes away concentration and reverence of the Musjid. How does one address this matter? You the Imaam, guide us.  Please respond.

A: Walaikumsalam,

I appreciate you taking the time to share your concerns. Let me share some information that you may be unaware of regarding the diversity of those present. However, first things first. As Muslims we can all agree on the following:

1. The Sanctity of the Mosque

The mosque is a place of worship, tranquility, and reflection. Allah (SWT) says in the Quran:
And the Musjid are for Allah. (Quran, 72:18) This verse makes clear the reverence we owe to the Houses of Allah (SWT).

Rasool (SAW) also emphasized maintaining the sanctity of the Musjid by saying: When any one of you prays, let him(her) not disturb others by reciting loudly. If Quranic recitation is advised to be in a low voice, then casual worldly chatter is undoubtedly inappropriate. It is clear that maintaining silence and respect in the mosque is essential.

However, it is equally important to approach any breaches of this etiquette with wisdom and kindness. Rasool (SAW) reminded us: Indeed, Allah is gentle and loves gentleness in all matters.
When correcting someone, harshness can often create division, whereas gentleness fosters understanding and harmony. This becomes a delicate balance to fulfil. We can all improve in this regard.

2. Non-Muslim Guests and Society

Many non-Muslims may not be familiar with the etiquettes of a Musjid. Their presence, even if accompanied by unintentional lapses in decorum is an opportunity for dawah. Harshness or impatience may discourage them and can play into the stereotype, while a warm and patient demeanor can leave a positive impression.

In today’s society, where media stereotypes often paint a distorted image of Muslims, our behavior speaks volumes. This does not mean we should allow disrespect, but it does mean we must address such matters with wisdom and tact.

3. Now addressing You Directly

I understand your frustration and appreciate your concern for preserving the sanctity of the mosque. Your feelings are valid. However, it’s important to recognize that many of the guests who were making noise may not have known the rules. As Muslims, we have a responsibility to educate with kindness and compassion. A gentle reminder about Musjid etiquette could have gone a long way in creating a more positive impact for regulars and guests.

It is also possible that the commotion caught you off guard, especially if you arrived a bit late. Understandably, the crowd and noise may have flustered you as you went straight to pray. Arriving earlier could have allowed for better engagement and the opportunity to gently guide others.

4. Proposing Clear Guidelines

For future events, I will recommend measures to maintain the sanctity of the mosque. Volunteers can be stationed at entrances to greet guests, explain Musjid etiquette and answer any questions. This effort would help avoid misunderstandings and uphold the respectful atmosphere of the Musjid.

If you are able to assist in this capacity, your support would be greatly valued. If volunteers lack, enforcing these principals can be a challenge.

5. Following the Example of the Rasool (SAW)

Rasool (SAW) faced far greater challenges in teaching people about Islam, yet he always responded with patience and mercy. Let’s use this situation as an opportunity to embody His (SAW’s) example, showing the beauty of Islam through our actions. By approaching this matter with wisdom and grace, we can preserve the sanctity of the Musjid while fostering a welcoming and understanding environment for all.

Let’s grow together and Insha’Allah, we will improve in worldly and spiritual matters, Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.