Q: Assalaam Aalaykum, i saw you at the event which was very good mashaallah and I wanted to approach you. I was told by one of the bothers that you would rather prefer my question in writing. I will keep it short.
I pray five times a day. I read Quran alhamdulillah and have fear of Allah Subhana who watalala. I also really want to do the right thing. right thing
I am getting my masters in engineering. I also have a very good job. This is only because of the Duas of my parents and grandparents.
I moved to America 5 years ago. In xxxxx (musjid name withheld) and in university I saw this muslim girl that I liked very much. She wears the hijab mashaallah. We also had math together and i consider her smart. Only one problem. She told me she is single. But sisters close to her sayin she is married. And then their are sisters sayin she is not married. She was doing homework or group work with some nonmuslims. After she left I asked them if they know anything about her they said she is not married.
I don’t know what to do. Can you advice me. It’s affecting my study time and work.
Thank you.

A) Walaikumsalam,

We are receiving many cases in which men and woman that are married are making the claim that they are single.  In a small community such as ours, this proves as an embarrassment to couples and parents and sometimes friends.  It is apparent that you are trying to do the correct thing. You also have a conscience and your conscience does not want you to do the wrong thing. At the same time you are undergoing a struggle, if you do not monitor the struggle you could end up hurting yourself/your imaan. (Additionally, DON’T STALK!)
We know from the famous Hadith: Leave that which is doubtful. Allah has presented a sign regarding this persons inconsistency as to their marital status.
You appear to have worked hard to attain your success. Make Dua Allah (SWT) finds you someone that is compatible to your level of goodness.
Agents of Shaytan are everywhere. If you do not walk away from this situation, it will swallow you up alive. Have some basic rules that you will live by. For example: i will not communicate with liars, i will limit my contact with those that do not pay back loans, i will not work or ever intentionally marry a liar, or a cheater or one that is abusive to orphans/poor, etc. Giving abusive people chances only can promote their low quality behaviors. I have seen many men and woman not take this advice. Young people always think they can outwit situations. Trust me on this: if you tangle yourself with people that are ‘professionally’ deceptive, very seldom you will be able to outwit them.
Solution: Pay attention to your work, pay attention to your studies, work closely with your immediate family and people that have always had your best interest. Be it teachers, religious leaders, etc. Ask your family for assistance regarding marriage, if this is not possible, go to respectable people to find your respectable partner. Doing otherwise only puts you in greater risk of doing something premature.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.