Q: Asalaamualaikum , I urgently need advice regarding marriage without consent of parents. I have read the other posts regarding this matter however, my story is unique. both my parents are aware of the fact that I am currently seeing someone as I have told them suggesting that he would like to approach them in order for our proposal to be arranged. He is 25 years of age and I am 20 and currently studying. I have discussed my reasons with my father as why I would want to be married. firstly, I love him, marriage or even a proposal where we can be allowed to see each other legally without having to meet secretly to avoid creating sin. Secondly, due to my career path I will eventually have to serve in a rural area for two years, However if I am registered my chances of serving in such a location is minimum. my parents relationship however is not steady and due to that they have disregarded my plea .This type of behaviour is common in my family as my cousin who is now 30 years of age is still unmarried due to disregard of her many attempts.  both my parents are aware of the fact that if their daughter suggests she wants to get married , it is sinful to stop her as she will only be creating sin/zina. my life has always been problematic for as long as I can remember and my parents relationship has always been inconsistent . I now am left with no hope. Everyday I question as why am I going through such difficulties and life for me is now unbearable. Marriage for me is my key to happiness .I therefor would like to seek your advice if we can make nikka without consent of my parents.

A: Walaikumsalam,

Although you can make the nikah since zina is at bay, it is better you have your fathers full blessing, considering that your parents are aware of your communication with your intended spouse.

It is wrong for them to allow you to continue talking to this man.  If they persist that you do not marry him, go to a local group of scholars and present your case with your parents present.

Make your decision while thinking of the long-term consequences. Never act in haste, for your repentance shall last a lifetime. It is not worth attaining a few seconds of happiness in exchange of a lifetime filled with grief.

May Allah (SWT) make matters easy for you, ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.