Q: Alhamdullilah I got married a year ago. I heard ur talk on how many men cannot function in the bedroom because of things done during youth. Allah give u Jazza-e-khayr. I was sexually active from 14. I got married at 25. I always had a few gf’s at all times. Now that im married I cannot function as I used to. Sometimes I cannot function at all. This problem has being going on for about 2 years. On my wedding night I had to pop a pill. I am sharing this to show our young boyz that it may seem cool to party now but always a price to pay.  If I need to get aroused I need to watch adult movies. Or pop a pill if its an immediate thingy to be done. Im told that because I watch these movies my nikah is broken. Is this true? Also I read online that to watch porno with the wife is permissible but not alone bcuz of masterbation. In talking to girls this prob is not just a guy thing. Womn can also benefit. Third time im sending this Q

Answer:

• Your nikah in intact.
• Adult related material under general conditions are not allowed, even with ones wife.
• Usage of such material would only create greater problems, which would defeat the sacredness of Nikah! Thus Haram

Words of advice:

• One does not need to always attach themselves to adult (intimate) relations on continual bases with their spouse. You need your body to gain part of its adult related sensitivity.
• Limit looking at woman except your wife.
• Do not look at any type of explicit/graphic /material.
• Reduce the amount of intercourse. Perform without putting pressure on your body. Many times, people feel they have to do it, this places additional pressure on the body.   Many other romantic occurrences can take place between the both of you. It is not always about the final ‘deed.’ You seem like a creative person, use your creativity in a halal manner.
• Exercise to gain your body’s healthy strength back.
• Be on a diet that removes that which limits you from functioning in the manner you wish. Diet coupled with refraining from all forms of lewdness can assist in making your body stronger.
• Attend your local Islamic center and attempt to perform your salah with jamat. Gradually you will notice tranquility in your adult related life.
• Make Tawba (seek forgiveness) and always make dua that Allah guides you as well as every youth in your situation.
• Attend a place where people go to assist in the reduction of a given addiction. (Professional counseling.) You are young, you need to correct your issue as soon as possible.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.