Q: Assalaamu’Alaykum I have been married for 2 months now. We met about 15 months ago and after she completed her studies we got married. The 2 months of my marriage has been hell! At first I didn’t know what was going on, she got mad at the smallest of things, she talked about moving out/divroce all the time. I never suspected that she was having an extra-maritial affair. About 5 weeks ago, someone sent me an email with pictures of my wife and another guy in intimate positions. She always talked about this guy and said he was her “friend” and nothing more. When I confronted her, she told me that 2 month’s before our marriage, she started having feelings for this guy and had a physical relationship with him. I was devasted! I had invested so much emotionally into this relationship that I was completely heart broken. Before our marriage there were some complications, but our relationship was strong. I went away for 3 weeks and she got intimate with her “friend”. After getting caught and promising me not to keep in touch anymore, she got caught again (within 2 weeks) and this time she touched the Quran and lied to me about keeping in touch with him. I am so lost that I do not know what to do. She tells me “great” things about how she wants our marriage to work and she made such a huge mistake, but often she behaves very badly with me for no apparent reason. That kind of behaviour reminds me of our earlier days of marriage. I strongly suspect she is seeing him again and I have also told her that if she wants, she can leave and go to him. She doesn’t want to do this, but at the sametime she is not making our marriage happy or pleasant! Pls advice me how I can resolve this situation as it is killing me inside and hampering my work!
Answer: Walaikumsalam,
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It is generally difficult to use logic when emotion has taken over. Yet, i appreciate you being the most reasonable a person can be while being in such a predicament/dilemma. Take a step back from your marital issue and ask yourself: can i see myself with this person ten/twenty years from now, more so, if s/he remains the same?!
May Allah (SWT) ssist you and all others that are in a similar situation, ameen.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.