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Islamic QA for North America

Can I Marry a Person Like Me?

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Q: Can a person who committed adultery for years (zina-premarital adult relations) marry a person who have never committed zina? How about i did not know if it was haram Imaam

A. Permissibility does exist for a repented adulterer/adulteress to marry a chaste individual. Due to the disadvantage of experience and other possible promiscuities that unchaste people take part in, it would be better for an adulterer/adulteress to marry a person similar to ‘their type.’ A person should marry an individual who has committed similar acts of transgressions. The added condition should be that they both be compatible in that they want to change their lives for the better.
For a Man or woman who is zina-oriented to marry chaste (non-zina) and honorable person intentionally would contribute bringing to the forefront that sexuality can be toyed with as humanity views fit. This is far from the Islamic teachings of morality. It is most ironic that at the time of marriage people seek chaste partners, partners whose life they can have an adverse affect upon, primarily as a result of premarital promiscuity.

Shari’a does allow one to marry a woman of honor, and vice versa; when seeking compatibility, however, we think it is best you marry a ‘type’ similar to yours.

Indeed Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) is most forgiving, forgiveness does not mean forgotten, nor does it mean that you are free from the residue of taint. So we hold, marry a person similar to your interests, while both of you continue seeking forgiveness and a better spiritual life.

Allah certainly knows best.

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