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question: I joined the MSA at my school, and of course for the sake of Allah. Can you give us guidelines of how male/female interact/work together to help the community????

Time: Thursday July 16, 2009 at 1:53 am

Answer:

1. Always remember that Allah (SWT) is watching our every move (derived from Hadith)
2. Do not sit and be part of people who would violate the sacred trust of religion placed upon them by Allah (SWT) (Quran and Hadith)
3. Always perform your prayers on time (derived from Quran and Hadith)
4. Perfect record keeping is essential for maximized credibility
5. Never gossip about your fellow groupmates. You are going to be together for the great task of religion. Do not opt for a negative start. (derived from Quran and Hadith)
6. Men and woman should give each another their respective privacy (derived from Quran and Hadith). Never be caught getting cozy with members of the opposite gender. Men must sit with men, woman with woman. Look at your own body and gender. Watch your eyes.
7. Even when you disagree to doing something respectable, never become a hinderance towards the good actions of others. A hypocrite claims to want to do good but acts contrary to this claim. Learn to wish others well (derived from Quran and Hadith)
8. Men and woman should NEVER interact alone. They MUST ALWAYS have a responsible/respectable/objectionable 3^rd party. (derived from Quran, Hadith and advice)
9. Remember, this is not a pub, club, or a rock concert or hang out cafe,  etc. So treat it with respect. Anything linked to Islam deserves the respect as commanded by Islam. In the process of such an adherence, you bring dignity to self (derived from Hadith)
10. Never trade cell phone numbers. Never insist/encourage calls from the opposite gender in privacy. Always send your emails to added parties so as to not be accused of improprieties. Best to interact within the same gender  so as to prevent rumors/accusations (derived from Hadith)
11. Persons seeking marriage should consult their parents or other qualified person, instead of ruining their reputation, and the reputation of other group members (derived from quran, Hadith and common courtesy)
12. Be focused on what you wish to accomplish in every MSA meeting. Do not drag matters. Once done with your task(s), leave for your studies. You are not in college to babysit the MSA agenda. Nor are you there to stroke any of your poor/sick/rotten urges and desires. You are in college to get a degree. Get your degree, and move on with your life. You having a successful life would function as an encouragement for future MSA members as well.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.