Q. Assalamu Alaykum,

My friend(who recently reverted) and I were talking about our experiences with other Muslims. We both wear hijab(Alhamduillah) but we find that some Muslims will go out of there way to not be around other Muslims or be ‘labeled’ as a Muslim. But then there’s the opposite extreme, where Muslimah hijab’s are extremely rude and critical of others. What should we do?

Monday June 22, 2009 at 2:43 pm

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O you who believe, do not let a group (of woman) laugh (ridicule)  at another group, perhaps they (the mocked group) may be better then you (and your group). Nor let women (taunt) at another women, by chance the one jeered at may be better than you all,  and do not find error amongst yourselves nor call one another by (wicked) nicknames; wickedness (and doing evil) is a bad (thing to aspire towards) after (bringing) faith …..  (48:11 understood meaning shared)

In all cases, to judge anyone wrongfully would remain incorrect. Those not wearing hijab must not judge those that do wear it as superior or inferior. People refusing contact with those that ascribe towards religiosity do so at times due to their level of personal embarrassment or failure to comply with Islam’s simple religious requests.

To insist upon not being with believes due to their level of religiosity is tantamount to hypocrisy. For Muslims are called upon to be with one another, and always help one another in matters of good. We should not ignore such petty Muslims. We should try our best to at least greet them, and be the best we can to take advantage of the Ayah on being the best of example to all of humanity.

Those that wear the hijab must view those that do not wear it as people that really want to wear it but cannot do so due to reasons beyond their control. For them to be rude or arrogant would deprive them of the necessary piety and the full reward and barakah of doing good.

Those that do not wear the hijab must be proud of those that do wear it. Allah (Subhanahu Wata’Ala) sometimes forgives people for their shortcomings due to their good thoughts and wishing well towards others.

To marginalize those that do not wear Islamically bound attire would be wrong if done without a valid reason.

Congratulations on your reverting to being the best. May Allah (Subhanahu Wata’Ala) help us all to do good, practice good and preach good, Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

People are welcome to share their personal rational experiences in solving similar matters, or ways in which they have dealt with it.