Q: My one sister in particular wears full Islamic attire. Niqab, gloves, eye cover the works   We are all soo proud of her.Because of her Islamic attire doctors lawyers and many successful people wanted to marry her. Alhamdulillah because of her I too changed and now only attend religious functions. I have not listened to music in 3 yars. I stay away from boys my age or any man. I do not add guys on any social media. My pass codes are given and written for all to see. My phone is left at a place that anyone can answer for me.  If men are included on my social media it is only my uncles. No cousins. This is how good my sister influenced me. What got me upset imaam is my sister is getting married and when we went to the bridal store she modeled the outfit for its perfect fit. Part of her awrah (parts are to be private to strangers) showed and it did not bother her. She even joked about it all. She said it was to look nice for her husband. Imaam, this sister of mine changed my life from haram to halal and now she shows of her awrah to a stranger for her husband and later to people at the wedding are going to see her like this. She even said that if her in-laws ask for her husband who by the way is ‘religious’ to sit with her my mother must not say no. This is all so disgusting to me. Q: Do I have the right to not attend this wedding. Q: Can I tell her that if her dress is inappropriate and if she is going to be like a jahil (ignorant) woman sitting on stage with a man  that i am not going to attend? Q: Do I have to meet HER husband for picture taking? Please do not ignore my question. May Allah reward you.

Answers:  May Allah reward your sister for the good she has done for you and the ummah.

• If you are hurt because she does not walk the walk after she did the talked the talk, then in such a case you are most wrong. We should dislike the wrong because it breaks the laws of Allah, and breaking the laws of Allah causes us to be cursed. We must dislike the sin, not sinner. By contrast, if you dislike the sin and not the person committing the sin, the following remains important:
• Exposing the awrah to a stranger as described by you is wrong. Sometimes when we are happy, we get carried away and indulge in things that are poor in taste. Your sister too must realize when we obey Allah at the time happiness, at the time of sadness Allah’s Mercy would not be snatched away from us.  In happiness if the laws of Allah are violated, then we are must not shed tears when then things go bad for us.   Happiness and sadness remains a test from Allah.  Commitment demands compliance in both situations.
• Not going to the wedding may cause greater problems within the family. Those parts of the nikah that comply with the deen should be attended too. Those aspects that violate the nikah must be discussed in a manner of affection so as to create a balanced solution. You be the best you can be, wear your clothing as your religion demands and do not show others your internal (family/religious) problems.
• Give a note to your sister telling her how her good ways have positively affected you. Inform her with love, her wrong would make her be viewed as a hypocrite and the punishment for hypocrisy could hurt her in this life and in the life to come.
• If negotiations fail between the both of you, additionally if your sister insists on doing things the incorrect way, for example, if she insists on you meeting with her husband or wants you to take pictures with her or be with her while she is immodestly dressed, etc, then kindly excuse yourself from that portion of the nikah. If you feel the criticism for your attendance would be too severe due to your wanting to do things the correct manner and the outcome of your presence would prove greater misery, then merely pray for her guidance and excuse yourself from the event.
• No way should you ever think you are ever better than her, nor should you be sad for not attending. You must make a good religious decision and believe that Allah (SWT)is on your side.  ‘Your duty is only to inform the Truth in a nice way, not impose it on others.’

May Allah (SWT) bless your family, Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.