Q: I have been married for 3 years now to my husband who is 8 yrs younger than me and from a different culutre.  I told my husband before we married that it is very difficult for me to have another child because of a spinal injury i have. I can have a child but very dangerous for me to carry a child.  My husband was fine with this as i have two children already and doesn’t want to risk my health.  We also talked about adopting a child which we both love this idea.  He never told his family this and now that he has they want to force him to marry a second wife for children, because long before we ever knew each other he promised them he would marry for children.  I’m so heart broken now and my husband doesn’t know what to do, because of the promise he mad to them and all the pressure they are putting on him.  I already told him before we married i cant deal with other woman and he said no i cant either.  But his siters and aunts are pushing him, his mom also wants him to have children of his own but doesn’t want to break out marriage.  Can this be allowed can they force him to marry a second wife just to have kids, even though now we are looking for adoption.  We are so happy and so in love and this now is destroying everything.  Plz help!

Time: April 26, 2015 at 9:12 AM

A: Although there is great virtue is having children, you have made your situation clear prior to marriage, therefore, declining to have a child due to medical conditions is permissible. You both will also be rewarded for being patient.

In countries that allow for a second wife, etc. he is welcome to do so.

He must explain to his family that he was aware of your medical condition and both of you agreed that for health reasons that both will not have children. For people to influence him to create or contribute to a breakup is wrong and sinful.

Most men and woman only get influenced in what benefits them. Some men (like woman) get tired of their relationship and look for ways to find other partners. He must be truthful about why he is even entertaining such a conversation.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.