Q: I’ve been married for 9yrs now. But I’ve separated for the last 2 yrs. I live with my mum right opposite. The reason and excuse to separate was my wifeee idea. Ive suffering so much. I still love her. She’s the mother of my 2 boys. She dnt like my family. I told her hundred times I’ll stick by her all the way. But no. Just the other week I went around to see her but just before I about to knock I heard her & another guy talking. This was really late as I finish work late. Now she can’t face me & has stopped me having any contact with her and kids. ( all I said to her open the door she never. The next day I confronted her and she said she was asleep. I no 100% she won’t. I know what I heard. I can’t believe I love her so so much. She’s mother of my kids. I don’t want this marriage to end. Can someone please advise me I’m in need of help

A: Her merely talking does not mean that she perpetrated the action of adultary. At the same time, your issue is beyond her talking to another male. It is the family dynamic structure that needs to be evaluated.

Although it may be difficult to let go, sometimes it may be best to move on, more-so, if efforts to reconcile have been exhausted. This advice is very difficult to follow, more-so when you feel that you have lost control over a situation. Sometimes we love a wo/man more when we perceive them to be loved by someone else. Do not let this insecurity hold you back from making the right decision.

The upbringing of your children as well as their spiritual well-being is something you must try an ensure. This is your obligation towards your children. Fulfill it within the parameters of religion and the rules of society.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.