Q: I am interested in 2nd marriage.She is my class fellow.we like each other due to shariah/religious values.I am 45 and she is 23 years old.I proposed and requested for marriage but her parents refused.I tried twice to convince them but they dont agree due to my 3 grown up kids.I have serious troubles with my wife and that is also one reason of my going for another.My first wife is not good(not even on talking terms with my mother) and disrespectful to my elders and mother.I and my class fellow know each other for the last 3 years now. We are in a love relation ship although strictly Islamic.She has been told by her parents to stop all contacts and forget me.We wanted Islamic marriage with all decency.Can her parents stop her?Can she marry me without their consent? I am earning and am well off .My first wife is strictly against my going for this second marriage(love).Is consent of wali .(.her father) necessary or she can marry me without his agreeing to it?Plz quot Ahadees and Quraan where possible. Jazakallah Khairan

Time: August 7, 2013 at 9:35 PM

A: Although you would be allowed to marry her without the consent of her parents, it would always be nice to have their prayers. If you both are inclined towards sin, marriage would be best to keep it away from zina.

We recommend for you to take this matter to an in-house scholar.

Second wife in Islam is not a play. Responsibilities double on almost every level. Make your choices wisely and fulfill your responsibilities as required.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.