Q. Assalamu alaykum, I’m currently a (x)  student, and I’ve been feeling verydepressed about marriage. Although I’m very busy and should be focused on school, I’m unable to because of this. I have gotten a couple of proposals but I’ve rejected some because of the men’s lack of maturity and compatible goals and others because of their family dynamics and my ability to adjust to their family. At this point, I’m not sure really what I can do and have been thinking of joining a Muslim matrimonial site. What can I do, especially since I feel depressed sometimes?

A. Walaikumsalam, may Allah (swt) make your studies and marital issues easy for you. Marriage is a major concern for many parents and youth. Allah (swt) has placed desire in us, we must not do things that’ll take away our respect while attempting to fulfill our desires. Allah (swt) delays matters at times to prevent us from the harm of another matter. We should not rush matters, when  we do so it can only create greater problems. With regards to matrimonial sites, we must be cautious. What makes you think the people on it would be better than the ones you have met right now? Are you remotely implying that the human on these sites are different from the human you are to meet in everyday life? It would be best if you discuss the issue of matrimonial sites with your guardian or those that are closest to you to prevent any possible conflict later on. Additionally talk about these sites to those that have experience as it relates to it. I sincerely wish you the best.

Wasalam

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