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Islamic QA for North America

May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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June 4, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Just do it the correct way!

Q: We at Hajj. Just arrived. We want things to be easy. Some in the group saying Rami is to be done than sacrifice of animal. To speed up the process, some say we do it the other way around. What if we did it oppsiite to sequence? (Text)

A: Follow the sequence. Do Rami than Sacrifice then Shave head. This is the better and safer view from the Ahnaf.

Doing it the opposite way would cause for you to give Damm (pay a penalty). This would require you to slaughter a sheep, goat, etc and give it to a poor person over there!

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

P.s. You spent all that money to do it right, not what is most easy.

June 4, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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No tail animal

Q: The famer we working only has sheep without tails and are castrated. Some say no buy some say yes. What does deen say? Jazakallah

A: Yes, they are permissible for sacrifice.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

June 2, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Makkah or Madinah first for umrah

Q: As-Salaamu Alaikum,

If someone is planning to perform Umrah, should they go to Makkah or Madinah first? Where should they wear the Ihram? (Phone message)

A: WaAlaikum Salaam wa Rahmatullah WBR,
This is a beautiful and common question. For educational benefit, we share more than one may prefer, however, it is to benefit others as well. There is no one-size-fits-all answer, as it depends on personal circumstances and what brings the most ease and spiritual readiness for the Umrah. The journey of Umrah is filled with sacrifice, reward and spiritual transformation—may Allah (SWT) grant you and your family ease and acceptance, Ameen.

Option 1: Makkah First
Pros:
·         Since Umrah can only be performed in Makkah, going there first gets the major act of worship completed early.
·         After Umrah, you are out of Ihram and can start performing other acts of worship – Quran, Salah, feed the needy, and explore historical sights with ease. Your purpose has been fulfilled. Now it’s all extra credit on your extra credit.
·         Jet lag, fatigue or illness which generally people undergo Insha’Allah will not interfere with the rest of your stay.

Important Note for this Option:
·   You must be in Ihram before crossing the Miqat.
·   If flying into Jeddah, the Miqat is typically Qarn al-Manazil (also known as al-Sail al-Kabeer).
·  Airlines will announce when you are near the Miqat.
·   Wear the Ihram at the time the announcement is made, or wear the Ihram at the airport prior to takeoff. Wearing it at the airport sometimes allows one to shower at the airport, etc. Less hectic, more ease and more clean.
·   Once the pilot makes the announcement that soon we are to cross Meqaat, make your intention and recite the Talbiyah.
·   Some do not like to wear it at the airport of original take off, because once in Ihram, all the rules now apply to you, all impurity must be avoided, types of conversations etc. all get limited, etc.
Example: Flying from California:  Wearing Ihram on the plane (This can be very challenging, yet, I have seen people doing it. Lax to destination, too challenging and not so practical.)  

This method is not easy. It just brings more challenges upon the self, but gets the task done. If one is limited with time, etc. it may work out well.

Option 2: Madinah First
Pros:
·   Spiritually boost attained by visiting the Rasool ﷺ.
·   Rasool ﷺ said: Whoever visits my grave, my intercession will be guaranteed for him. (Understood meaning of Hadith.)
·   Madinah offers a peaceful and calming effect before the physically demanding rituals in Makkah.

Ihram Process from Madinah:
·   No Ihram is needed while getting to Madinah or being in Medinah and up to one getting to Miqat. Some prefer this. Less stressful. (More likely to get sick before Makkah, making aspects of Umrah a challenge, especially if with family)
·   When traveling to Makkah, you will pass the Miqat of Dhul-Hulayfah (Abyar Ali). The folks will let you know when it is time to wear the ihram.  This approach allows you to do more of the subtle and technical things as can be noted, and done with more ease.
·   What to do at the stop at Miqat: 1. Some have a shower, others already had a shower so they may make wudū. 2. Put on Ihram garments. 3. Pray 2 rakats (Sunnah) before making an intention. 4. Then make niyyah for Umrah. 5. Begin reciting the Talbiyah.
·  Now you are officially in the state of Ihram.

(make lots of Dua for the Ummah — May Allah (SWT) accept your family efforts! Ameen.)

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

June 2, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Do’s and Dont’s of Umrah!

Q: If one is thinking of going for Hajj and Umrah, what are some Do’s and Dont’s? Jak (Text message)

A: DO’s for Umrah: Before Departure:
·         Make a sincere niyyah.
·         The steps of Umrah are: Tawaf, Sa’i, and shaving of the head. While 2 opinions exist: one group says: so long as you cut your hair, it is sufficient, this is incorrect.  For a male that has long hair, they may cut the ends of it, for the rest of us, it is best to shave. Whenever 2 opinions exist, use the safer of the both.
·         Unscented toiletries.
·         Try and clear all non-fixed debts, seek forgiveness and make a will if needed.

 While in Ihram:
·         Say Talbiyah often: “Labbayk Allahumma labbayk…”
·         Maintain wudu as much as possible.
·         Be gentle and patient. No arguing, etc. Time for full-on Sabr!
·         Cover the awrah properly. Men and women must not expose what should not be exposed, doing so can affect the prayer and Umrah.
·         Avoid harming anyone physically or verbally. This is a challenge with massive crowds, this is where the reward is.

 During Umrah Rituals:
·         Tawaf: Begin at the Black Stone or that which gives the signal for its alignment, circle the Kabah 7 times counterclockwise. Sometimes for ease, people may perform from the top floor, this calls for less shoving and pushing, even though the walk is more, the reward too will be more. Once this is done, if one wishes to go on the bottom floors, they are welcome, at least by this time the main task has been accomplished.
·         Sa’i: Walk between Safa and Marwah 7 times, starting at Safa.
·         Getting out of Ihram:
o    Men: Best to shave. Trimming is for those that have ‘zulfa (Long hair up to the ears and beyond)’
o    Women: Cut a fingertip’s length from the end of the hair.

Bonus things to do: :
·         Make dua abundantly—especially between the Yemeni Corner and Black Stone.
·         Pray the 5 daily prayers in Masjid al-Haram for maximum reward. One would be amazing how many go all the way and just pray in the hotel while enjoying buffet.
·         Stay engaged in dhikr, tasbeeh, and salawat upon the Rasool ﷺ.
·         Make dua for others—Umrah is a time of accepted supplications while drinking lots of ZamZam!

DON’TS for Umrah while in Ihram:
While in Ihram, although the following are known to all, the books make mention of them, thus our sharing:
·         No stitched clothing (for men).
·         No perfume or scented items while in Ihram. Once out of Ihram, it would be fine.
·         Don’t trim hair or nails while in Ihram.
·         No hunting, killing insects, or pulling up plants.
·         No marital relations, flirtation, or intimacy.
·         Avoid arguments, backbiting or foul speech.

Major reward points:
·         Don’t push or shove—especially during Tawaf or at the Black Stone.
·         Don’t recite loudly if it disturbs others.
·         Don’t follow cultural myths—stick to the Sunnah.

General Mistakes to Avoid:
·         Don’t skip any part of Umrah—each step is essential. (You would be surprised how many say, but Allah knows what’s in my heart!)
·         Don’t be negligent about prayer times. You would be amazed to find out, how many miss out on their Salah during Umrah!)
·         Don’t argue with staff, they do what they are told to do, or be upset with other pilgrims.

Pro Tips:
·         ️ Show kindness—Allah loves the gentle.
·         Carry a small dua book or app. Books can be confiscated, for some believe you may be saying things that are not correct. So memorize a few good duas in advance. Add duas in your languages as well.
·         Use only unscented products in Ihram.
·         Stay hydrated and take breaks. We like people to come back alive with an accepted Hajj/Umrah!

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

P.s. Sorry to respond so late, saw your inquiry very late in our inbox. Apologies!

June 1, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Student does not mean No Udhiya

Q: I had $11 472 dollars. I am an international student. Do I do Qurban?

A: You have over the amount of Nisab. As such, you would need to do Qurbani.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

P.s. Does not mean you have to spend all that you have, may way to do it economically as well. Do it, and inshaAllah, Allah (SWT) would give you Barakah.

May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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‘lets keep this simple Bro’ –really?!

Q: Ok lets keep this simple Bro. If I got haram moneys i mean really haram money and I did Qurbani like Udhiya, does some of my sins get washed away?

A: Offering Qurbani (Udhiyah) with haram income is not accepted — it brings no reward, only financial loss. Intentionally doing so is a sin, not an act of devotion. Rasool ﷺ said: Indeed, Allah is pure and accepts only that which is pure (Hadith)

If your earnings are unlawful, then even a noble act like Qurbani becomes void of reward.

Purify your income. Earn halal, and then offer your Qurbani — and not only will it be accepted, but Allah ﷻ will reward you abundantly and forgive your sins.

Their meat will not reach Allah, nor will their blood, but what reaches Him is your taqwa (God-consciousness).(Surah Al-Hajj 22:37)

So give from what is pure, with a pure heart — and Allah will multiply it beyond measure.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

P.s. Asking such a question has either one of two elements to it: you are religiously messed up, or you getting consciousness to this religion. I am hoping it is is the latter, Insha’Allah. Join us for Eid prayers, if you are local at Dos Vientos. Eid Mubarak!

May 30, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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did not do Qurbani for my entire

Q: Q: I did not do Qurbani for my entire life and I always had the money. I realeize i was wrong and want to make good on my past. What do I do? Jak

A: For every Qurbani you missed in the past, it is necessary (wājib) to make it up. Since Qurbani is a wājib act for those who meet the conditions, any missed obligation must be fulfilled. However, unlike the regular Qurbani where one may consume a portion of the meat, the compensatory Qurbani (for missed years) must have all of its meat given entirely in charity (ṣadaqah) to the poor. You are not permitted to eat from it.  

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

May 7, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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woman has been abused

Question: Is divorce allowed if the woman has been abused multiple times over four years?(4 times in 4 years) These attacks have left marks and were not warranted. There was zero effort made on behalf of the abuser for counseling or anger management. I have left him numerous times with false promises of counseling. The last fight left me with a black eye. I did not physically attack him at all. I do not want to bear patience. I do not want to talk to any scholar about how it’s my fault. I do not want to live in fear anymore. I feel like 4 years with no prospect of hope is long enough. I do not want mediation. I do not want to talk to scholar with him. All I want is a divorce so that I can have my peace back.

Answer: No one is required to remain in an abusive marriage. Islam does not ask anyone to live in fear, endure (repeated) harm, or accept false promises without sincere change. Rasool ﷺ said: There should be neither harm nor reciprocating harm.

You have demonstrated patience. Your safety, dignity, and peace of mind are also important, and Islam honors those rights. If your husband has repeatedly abused you, caused you physical harm and made no genuine effort to seek help or change, you have the right to leave.

Islam grants women the right to seek divorce (khulaʿ) when a marriage causes harm or becomes unbearable. That said, how you separate should also reflect your faith, and this includes ensuring that the process is sound according to Islamic guidelines. This may require consulting a trusted, qualified scholar, not for judgment, but for guidance on matters such as the proper type of divorce, the waiting period (ʿiddah), and your rights. (There are councils (eg: Shura council) in California that can assist in this regard.

May Allah (SWT) make matters easy for you, Insha’Allah.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

Disclaimer: This response is based solely on the information you have shared. Every situation has multiple perspectives, and it’s important to acknowledge that. That being said, your case appears serious and deserves proper attention. Given the nature of this marital issue, speaking with a qualified therapist may also be beneficial.

May 5, 2025
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Qurbani – Udhiya

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