Know Your Deen

Q: Salam,

I have read many of the questions and your answers to them… I find it really soothing…..but i am in stress. My Alevels exams are coming up ( in January) and then again i m in a relationship with a girl… After reading some of your relationship related answers i try to keep it very holy… I used to touch her before (just hold hands) but after reading frm this site i stopped…. Problem is her parents found out about our relationship and they are trying to seperate us from each other…..she doesnot want it neither do i…relationship mixed with the exams i m really stressd….. Your advices are very comforting ….pls advice me on this matter…. Is there any dua to comfort me at this time? Pls give me something…( i just hope my message is not informal . I mean no disrespect) thank you

Time: Sunday September 18, 2011 at 9:36 pm

A:    (by Br: Yassir Butt. Due to time constraints,from time to time we send questions to him for answering; we appreciate all that he does for the community.)

We were taught by our elders L.O.V.E stands for (L=Loss, O=of, V=Valuable, E= Energy) and it seems that is what your are doing to yourself.  You should be focusing on your A levels my naive friend.  Your relationship is invalid and is in direct violation of our islaimc ethical code (touching or no touching, good try though).  First ace your A levels to show you can do something than hopefully request your father to propose to her family and ask her hand in marriage (try to be a man for a change).  Do not fan the flames of desire unless you can extinguish them with the water of a halal relationship like marriage otherwise these flames have a tendency to burn down anything in their path.