November 26, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Q: I am told that to celebrate thanking is ok bcuz we celebrating the past years harvest. So if this is my intention can I do it? Can I have friends over to celebrate as Dawah? (text from 480 area code) Continue Reading →
November 25, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Question/Comment: Assalamu alikum xx xxxxxxx xxxxxx,
I have a non-Muslim professor who asked me this question: “In Muslim culture, when doing business or interacting among friends, what is the cultural substitute for shaking hands? How is a greeting communicated between a woman and a woman, between a man and a man, between a man and a woman during a first-time meeting? How is respect shown?”…And this is how I put together my answer but I haven’t submitted to him, so would you please check my answer and tell me what needs to be changed, and what not…I will appreciate your feedback.
My answer: The handshake greeting is recommended between same genders in Islam. Men can shake hands, kiss on the cheeks, and hug…etc their wives, mothers, sisters, aunts. Men amongst themselves can greet each other the way they want as long as it’s appropriate (hugging, kissing on the cheeks, shaking hands, touching each other’s shoulder, whatever the culture of their nationality uses for greeting, and again as long as it’s appropriate from the manners prospective). And women can use the same greetings amongst themselves as well.
According to the Islamic law, it is not permissible for Muslim men or women to shake the hands of (any opposite gender who’s not related to that opposite gender; even though women cousins are related to that man, but they may not be allowed to greet with any physical contact), regardless of each others’ religion, nationality. The respect is shown between men and women the first time or any time they meet can be anything that does not cause or lead to a physical contact. It can be a respectful oral greeting, like the “Peace be upon you” phrase. In fact, to show higher respect for women in Islam; men can greet women, but they should not expect the women to greet them back. Also, the non-physical contact in the Muslim culture shows more respect toward women from men.”
How did I do? :/
Jazakum Allah min kul Khair.
(Name: Urgent! I need your answer as soon as possible please!)
Time: Tuesday November 23, 2010 at 11:31 pm Continue Reading →
November 24, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Q: As Salaamu Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatuh,
I was wondering if being a surrogate for another couple who can not have a child be allowed in islam.
Time: Tuesday November 9, 2010 at 4:16 pm Continue Reading →
November 24, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Comment/Concern: While working I met a man of Islam. He was very kind to me, and always treated me with respect, patience, and attentiveness. I am an American woman (Divorced with children) and have always been taught that Arab men are abusive and controlling, and that for single women to touch them is considered highly offensive. So, despite his manners I avoided touching him at all costs, and only responded to his questions and conversation cautiously. When I last saw him I happened to take my break at the same time he came into my store. We ended up having lunch together, and he told me about his desires to marry and re-settle in Orem, Utah. He spoke of his love for children, and he complemented me on the beauty of my own children. His timing could not have been worse, and my manner in responding to him could not have been more shameful. Continue Reading →
November 23, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Question 1 and 2: assalaamualaykum,
i have a student loan…partly subsidized and partly unsubsidized. what i wanted to know was if i can go on (Question 1) hajj and give (Question 2) qurbani considering the fact that i am making my payments regularly and have a fixed time-frame in which i intend to pay it off. furthermore, if i were to die, then i do intend to first pay off my loan through any jewelry and belongings that i may leave behind.
jazakAllah khayr for your help.
Time: Monday October 25, 2010 at 12:21 pm
Q3: I got accepted to medical school. I owe $45 000 in loans. Out of happiness I want to go for umrah. I have not done hajj. Whts your take? (text – area code 251) Continue Reading →
November 22, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Assalaamu’Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
Our deepest and most sincere condolences go to the Afridi family. As most of you are aware by now, the Afridi family has lost their belovered mother/grandmother abroad. Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihe rajeoon. May Allah Continue Reading →
November 21, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Q: Salamualikum,
I lived in Toronto, Canada. I have a question regarding Qurbani. I sent money back home to Pakistan to do my Eid ul Adha qurbani. Is it premissible in Islam to do qurbani oversea, because i perform my Eid prayer after the qurbani was done in Pakistan. So my qurbani will be accepted or not.
Time: Saturday November 20, 2010 at 5:46 pm Continue Reading →
November 21, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Q: Asalaamalaykum,
May Allah swt reward you for your noble efforts for answering our questions, and helping us better our selves.
Imam,
I have been feeling depressed, and just not happy. I have good days and bad days, and most days so far have been bad. I feel like things have not been going the way that I have planned, my parents are not proud of me, I didn’t do anything haraam or inappropriate, I just haven’t done much that has made my family proud of me. Continue Reading →
November 20, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Question/concern: Assalama Aalaykoum Imam,
More than me influencing friends I am usually the one that is influence. Alhamdullah, I reacently learned this about myself and its a weakness i have that i need to watch out for. I know you said the key is to minimize socializing and Alhamdullah, I am working on that and Alhamdullah it is going good. But then my question is eventhough, I minimize my soicailizing i really hate the moments i run into my friends or worse see them in class because some of them are my classmates. I really hate it because I am trying so hard to let go of all the habits that they do and i used to once do it. But it is really hard to avoid them when you are classmates and i usally fall into the bad habbit and later I really feel guilty and bad that i fell into all the things i am asking repentance from Allah (s.w.t). I also tried not sitting with them but they come sit with me in class. So, my question is how do i approach this situation where when i see my friends/classmate I dont keep falling into the mistakes that I am repenting from. I want to advice them but then I dont know how to advice them. I guess, I am one of those people that get influenced but they are not good at influencing others.
May Allah(s.w.t) reward you for your time and Advice.
Time: Sunday October 17, 2010 at 9:10 Continue Reading →
November 20, 2010
by Ml. Muhammed Shoayb
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Q: Assalau alykum Sheikh,
But then Sheikh, if someone paid their Zakat according to the gold value, what must they do when the hawl goes around the money again next year? do they pay Zakat according to the value of gold or silver? (question has come from the following set of information) Continue Reading →