Q: Family and wife do not get along whatsoever. clashes left and right and sometimes no contact for a long while. how can I deal with this and move forward? or is it better to go separate ways? a gathering would be great although I don’t see that happening. why cant we all just get along?

A: As people of faith, we should always make Sabr (practice patience). If one finds that making Sabr (having patience) is most difficult, or the pain your wife is undergoing is beyond that she can bear while living in an extended family like situation, then in such a situation, if Allah (SWT) has blessed you with the resources to live close by to your parents while awarding your family (wife and children) the necessary comfort, you should try and do so.

For a man, his first priority is establishing safety and security while providing what is necessary for his wife and children. If this cannot be done in your current situation, then you must better evaluate your responsibilities and strive to fulfill them.

It must not happen that upon leaving your extended family situation you create greater conflict with your family and suffer greater financial and social chaos.

May Allah (SWT) make matters easy for each of you, Ameen.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.