Know Your Deen

Q: Assalamualaikum: Can we pray behind an Imam who you feel does not like you or makes you uncomfortable? The reason why I ask is I went to a mosque near my work for Dhuhr prayer and the Imam of the mosque gives me a uncomfortable feeling when I see him. This is not the only time I felt this way, last ramadan I felt the same way when I would make eye contact with him after Jummah. My father has told me I shouldn’t pray behind someone if he makes you feel uncomfortable or if he doesn’t like you. So stopped going to that mosque. Recently, I have been trying to pray my five daily salahs so decided that I will go there Monday-Thursday. So I when I saw him today for Dhuhr I got that same feeling again. I know he has had some issues with my family in the past, but I feel like he is keeping a grudge against me due to that. All I want is to pray my salah and the mosque is the most convenient and best place to do that of course. Any advice will help. May Allah bless you and your family. Thank you. Also, please keep my name private.

Time: Thursday February 23, 2012 at 4:35 pm

A: Wa’Alaykum Salaam,

Leave your personal feelings aside. Generally, they are from the naafs and shaytan. As a male, your duty is to perform salah with jamaat (group.) Do that at the musjid that is closest to you and move on with your tasks of the day once this is accomplished. There was no need for you to make eye contact with anyone. Eye contact is not the purpose of you going to the musjid. Eye contact, handshakes etc. are generally by-the-way actions. Sadly, they appear to be becoming the central action of your worship. Go pray and then leave. The more you allow eye contact and handshake matters to come in the way, the more shaytan will inspire you with negativity (handshake was weak, handshake was not as smooth, handshake was not coupled with eye contact, etc!). These are all distractions from shaytan. You must learn the virtue of salah with jamat, perform it and move on with duties that would make you a better person.

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