Q. Can i have adult relations with my wife after she had her monthly thingy (I am sure the brother means menstrual cycle) but before the showering? She is going to have her bath anyway, so does it matter? I am 19 and she is (age with held by our site) and moulana saheb  I really need your answer like quick because I can’t handle this waiting period every month, like her taking a shower and all this menstruating laws stuff. So bring it on with some  benefit on me man, please. (New York)

A. If your wife’s menses ended after the total completion of her tenth full day, then only would you be able to have conjugal relations with her without a bath. However, it would be preferred for a woman to have a bath prior to conjugal relations regardless of how affectionate the couples are with each other.

Take note of the following ayah:

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And they ask you (oh Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) ) about menstruation. Say: It is a pollutant; therefore keep away from women during the menstrual discharge and do not go near them until they have become clean; (this means that you can do everything with them, sleep with them, etc. with the exception of taking benefit from them between navel to knee, i.e. conjugal relations) then when they have purified themselves, you may approach them as Allah has commanded you; surely Allah loves those who turn much (to Him), and He loves those who purify themselves.

(2:222)

Allah certainly knows best.