Q: assalamualaikum,
I am studying to complete my bachelor degree.Islam doesn’t support to make relationship before marriage.but I’ve chosen a practicing muslim girl to get married in future along with her opinion.Recently she has performed umrah with her family members.Since we don’t complete our degrees ,our parents won’t agree to get married as I am not established yet.But there is no reason against shariah to reject me by her parents.The reason is money,education and establishment.

She says, it’s against shariah to have relationship before marriage.Recently we have decided to complete our further studies out of our own country and definitely will live separately. We both feel guilty about the relationship  as it’s haram and at the same time we can’t leave each other. Can we get married without informing our parents ? and inform them after we complete our education ? the marriage will be a commitment (promise) between us to lessen our burden of sins and yes we are not willing to live together.
Allah knows best.waiting for your answers.

Time: January 27, 2015 at 2:49 PM

A: Walaikumsalam Warah matullai Wabarakatu

If you both can abstain from Zina, then it would best you both go your own way. Later in life, if she is single, you can propose for her. This relationship if pursued could end up creating more problems.

Marriage without parental consent under general conditions is a sin. Her parents advice regarding being established should be given genuine consideration.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.