Q: As salamu alaykun waramotullah wabarakutuh

I am a sister who has been in a n0n-mahram relationship for one year and now it has dawned on me that it is unacceptable in islam. The brother I am with is not ready to settle down yet though we both had the intentions of marriage and still do. He is much older than I am and feels I still need some time to mature while he financially stabilizes. I would like to know what options I have so I can decide.

Jazakum llahu khayran

Time: April 9, 2014 at 3:43 AM

A: Walaikumsalam,

Alhamdulillah, Allah (SWT) has guided you in seeking a solution to your matter.

When it came time for him to enjoy your company, at that point you were not immature! Likewise, he is viewed as ‘mature’ yet chooses to be in a relationship with you while ‘financially’ unstable.

Sister, you are not a toy. You appear mature enough to know that he is toying with your soft emotions. Inform him to propose when he is ready, until then, leave him alone. It is not easy to be alone after having someone to talk to, etc. If you respect yourself, you will leave him alone. Make dua to Allah (SWT) that Allah (SWT) sends you a respectable proposal.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.